Even if the first conversation goes badly, Ilse says keep going. "Big lifestyle changes take time. If you bring it up every so often, it shapes people's attitudes in the long term.", but switching from driving or flying can potentially limit family holidays and cost more.
"Say something like, 'I'm really scared about my future, these are the reasons I want to do something'," she suggests. Her mum Tracy explains that as Phoebe got older, their relationship changed from Tracy explaining facts to her to meeting in the middle to share knowledge.Present a solution, not just a problem, Phoebe explains. "Give them options for something fun or exciting.
"Be well-informed about the things you want your family to start changing so they can see you care and have done some research," she says.