Using the connection, postponement, and regulation strategies work to reduce worry.Excessive worry is costly. It takes time and energy but brings little rewards. It often leaves the worrier feeling helpless, anxious, physically depleted, and more worried. Interpersonally, it compromises relationships, leaving partners feeling swept into worry, avoidance, or
You already know that telling yourself “not to worry” or having someone else suggest that rarely works. It often leaves you with no alternative but to feel more frustrated and sometimes more worried., and self-criticism: “What will I do?” “What if my decision is wrong?” “ How will it turn out?” “ What’s wrong with me?”“I don’t have to have the answer now.
“Wow, I see why you are worried about making a mistake in the office when the kids keep texting you.”, regardless of the support their partner is trying to offer, disqualifies the partner's attempt to help and leaves both helpless.Because of your physical and emotional bond, being verbally and nonverbally present to a worrying partner can reduce the physical and emotional tension associated with worry. Even if it takes a few rounds.