How do you spot a love rat? The current man in your life has virtually swept you off your feet. He texts you all day, takes you to your favourite eatery from time to time, boys you little gifts and calls you at night because he can’t stop thinking of you! The first time Sandra’s phone went at 2 am, she was as mad as hell. “I’m a bad sleeper,” she says. “Even the sound of a cockroach rummaging in my wardrobe wakes me up. I’d forgotten to put my mobile on the ‘silent’ mode on this day in question.
“Hello”, I said, still groggy from sleep. “Is there anything wrong?” ‘I’m sorry if I woke you,” he was really apologetic. ‘I just couldn’t sleep, Sandra. I had a good day in the office today and I’m so happy. I want to share my happiness with you. I love you so much.” But could it? For a fortunate few, this type of romantic whirlwind can lead to a lifetime of happiness with a faithful man. But, according to recent research, when a man falls in love too quickly, it’s a woman’s alarm bells that should start ringing not her heart. A survey of 5,000 people for a dating website has revealed that men who believe in love at first sight are three times more likely to cheat on a partner than those who take their time.
“This means that when they meet an attractive stranger they are prone to telling themselves. “I have fallen in love… I haven’t felt that way about my partner in years…I have to try this out” rather than more cautious; I find this person exceptionally attractive but I love my partner and therefore I won’t pursue things.