Dear Lisi: My husband left me after 20 years of marriage and four children almost five years ago. . I was tired of his excuses, lack of ambition, over-enjoyment of recreational drugs and alcohol anyway, so in all honesty, I was somewhat relieved.
He has happily come out the other side, with renewed energy, fixed health, and a welcome change in his views on now-legal vices. But he’s also starting to court me, and I don’t know how I feel about that.My thoughts don’t matter…. it’s how you feel that counts. You two have a deep connection – 20 years of marriage and four children – which you will have for the rest of time. Your husband has obviously gone through a personal discovery and mindset shift over the course of his mid-life crisis.
For example, as explained by another man in a serious relationship wondering how to cope with his and his girlfriend’s out of sync sleep schedule, if one person is a night owl where the other retires early; and further to that, usually the one who goes to bed early tends to get up early, while the night owl can miss the morning entirely.